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To parent your Child

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I’ve always wondered if parents carry any responsibility for how their children turn out in life. Well lately, there has been research done on parenting styles. Four basic parenting styles are identified: uninvolved, indulgent, authoritarian, and authoritative.

Uninvolved are the one’s who does not respond to his children and demand something little from them. Children get into trouble in their early years and perform poorly in life. They also have low self-esteem and high level in depression and substance abuse. This parenting style opens doors for other to set rules in their child life.

Indulgent are high responsive to the need’s of their children but are not demanding. The children also get into trouble in their early life and perform poorly in school. However, these children have a better social life, higher self-esteem. These children say that they high too much money and have nothing to do, another words, bored.

Authoritarian parents demand lot’s from their children, but respond little to the need’s of their child. These children avoid trouble in school and have social impairment skills, but have low self-esteem and higher rate in depression.

And the last paring style is the best, authoritative, well the best outcome from the three above. The parents are high in response and demand from their children. These parents teach from example. Emotional and psychological autonomy are valued. Another words, these parents are careful in how they discipline their children and children accept their authority.

Thus, parents carry huge responsibility when it comes down to parenting. However, this leaves a door for a question, where would parents get the resource to parent their child? To whom will they turn for help? How would a parent know what to say and what to do? What direction does the child need to be point too?

This is where the book of Proverbs become a great resource as it starts with these words:
"Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck" (1:8-9)

Both father and the mother teach and instruct the child, otherwise this child's future is who knows what.

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