Skip to main content

To parent your Child

http://feedgrids.com/originals/images/uploads_post/image1.jpg
I’ve always wondered if parents carry any responsibility for how their children turn out in life. Well lately, there has been research done on parenting styles. Four basic parenting styles are identified: uninvolved, indulgent, authoritarian, and authoritative.

Uninvolved are the one’s who does not respond to his children and demand something little from them. Children get into trouble in their early years and perform poorly in life. They also have low self-esteem and high level in depression and substance abuse. This parenting style opens doors for other to set rules in their child life.

Indulgent are high responsive to the need’s of their children but are not demanding. The children also get into trouble in their early life and perform poorly in school. However, these children have a better social life, higher self-esteem. These children say that they high too much money and have nothing to do, another words, bored.

Authoritarian parents demand lot’s from their children, but respond little to the need’s of their child. These children avoid trouble in school and have social impairment skills, but have low self-esteem and higher rate in depression.

And the last paring style is the best, authoritative, well the best outcome from the three above. The parents are high in response and demand from their children. These parents teach from example. Emotional and psychological autonomy are valued. Another words, these parents are careful in how they discipline their children and children accept their authority.

Thus, parents carry huge responsibility when it comes down to parenting. However, this leaves a door for a question, where would parents get the resource to parent their child? To whom will they turn for help? How would a parent know what to say and what to do? What direction does the child need to be point too?

This is where the book of Proverbs become a great resource as it starts with these words:
"Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck" (1:8-9)

Both father and the mother teach and instruct the child, otherwise this child's future is who knows what.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGHyB9MsMho&feature=related
Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Lock Him up with the Bible & the Books

"Fling him into his office. Tear the 'Office' sign from the door and nail on the sign, 'Study.' Take him off the mailing list. Lock him up with his books and his typewriter and his Bible. Slam him down on his knees before texts and broken hearts and the flock of lives of a superficial flock and a holy God.  Force him to be the one man in our surfeited communities who knows about God. Throw him into the ring to box with God until he learns how short his arms are. Engage him to wrestle with God all the night through. And let him come out only when he's bruised and beaten into being a blessing.  Shut his mouth forever spouting remarks, and stop his tongue forever tripping lightly over every nonessential. Require him to have something to say before he dares break the silence. Bend his knees in the lonesome valley.  Burn his eyes with weary study. Wreck his emotional poise with worry for God. And make him exchange his pious stance for a humble walk with God a...
1 comment
Read more

Why Do an Altar Call?

Altar call is described as a religious method that helps a person to confess Christ publicly. The problem with this method is that altar call is not described in the bible. When three thousand people received Christ during Peter’s preaching, most likely no one came forward to confess Christ publicly (Acts 2:41). The confession was there, yet walking forward down the aisle was not there. These days, when an alter call takes place, music is plays in the background. Preacher might say a sad story followed with a tear. Some even have counselors walk forward to motivate others to do the same. Thus, altar call is a method that is not described in the Bible leading us to question if this method should be practiced in churches at all?     Altar call began in the 1800’s. Preachers created a mourner’s bench as an area for people to walk forward when an altar call was called. The Methodist evangelists have invented this method, yet Charles Finney was the one who gave a title al...
Post a Comment
Read more

Interpreting the Bible

The Right Hermeneutics   To understand the Bible (that was written about 2000 years ago), requires the right hermeneutics. The majority of Old Testament was written in Hebrew and the New Testament was written in Greek. 2000 years separates us from the day of Apostles (New Testament), but the Old Testament books were written long before that. Today we can see how cults use the bible to defense their heresies. Bible is read through out the world in many languages and not every person who teaches the bible have a seminary degree. Bible itself was not intended to be used by educated or scholarly people. John wrote, “The anointing which you received from Him abides in you, and you have no need for anyone to teach you; but as His anointing teaches you about all things” (1 John 2:27). Yet having stated that, ignorance is not an excuse to make dramatic interpretation mistakes. Bible is not a book to have it be used anyway someone desires to.  In fact, Bible as a book did...
Post a Comment
Read more